I always read stories of inspiration, marveling at the writer’s ability to persevere, not become discouraged, making it happen no matter what their mood or their hardship, and somehow making it seem like it was a no brainer, once over.
But then I realized. That’s the secret, in a nutshell. That’s the difference between those who succeed and those who don’t.
Which one are you?
Self reflection is always bitter-sweet. But there are those times, even though rare, where introspection can make the light bulb moment, the AHA! moment, as Oprah would call it, happen. Spawning lifelong change in attitude, personal belief about oneself and the final little shove that takes them to a new life.
Those are the moments that make every bit of the in between worth it.
Have you ever asked yourself, if you are one of those people sitting back and watching every other success story and not living your own? If the answer is YES, maybe you should also ask yourself if that is okay with you? Are you okay with being a bystander? Are you okay with allowing this or that to stand in the way of your life?
Take a look at my blog’s “mantra” on my homepage, dead center, dead top, dead on.
Improvement is the New Perfection
Don’t wait on perfect. It will hold you back. Don’t wait for the perfect moment or the perfect energy level or the perfect food day.
Begin now and evolve and improve, slowly and steadily. Plow forward with intention and knowing full well that you will never be perfect but any improvement over this moment is good enough.
My biggest advice to people who want to eat better is always the same: take baby steps. Pick one thing you would like to do better for the next 7-days and make it happen. Don’t think beyond that, just yet. One step is all.
For example: to drink more water or to drink less soda. Maybe you would like to eat more green vegetables or you’d like to be better about eating 6 small meals a day to prevent gorging. Everyone’s baby step is different. Once it’s accomplished, continue it. Goals and accomplishments then begin to stack up in a manageable manner. Before you know it, you’ve accomplished three things that really make a difference. Just don’t get too far ahead of yourself. One step at a time.
If you are struggling to keep going for one week, stretch it to two. Don’t add another task to accomplish until you’ve managed the first one. If something proves to be a little more difficult than you thought, keep going and try a new strategy. Remember to ask yourself often “how is this strategy working for me?”.
If You Fall Down, Get Back Up
This is a huge thing for a lot of us. Including me. I used to look at things in the wrong way. Until I changed the way I look at things. Profound, huh?
I made the mistake of eating wheat (I can’t eat wheat because of gluten intolerance). Let’s say I ate a cookie; I just broke down and had a real, normal chocolate chip cookie or a piece of cake or something. I would then have this dialogue in my head that began like this:
“well, I’m already going to suffer, so I might as well make it worth it”
Then guess what would happen? Yep, you guessed it.
I’d eat a pizza or a cheeseburger or a sandwich or the rest of the pack of cookies… You see where I’m going with this.
The one mistake would turn into skidding off the overpass.
What I am trying to say is this: if you make a mistake, brush yourself off and get right back to it. Don’t use it as an excuse to keep going off the overpass, making yourself feel worse and having the dialogue in your head deteriorate further. JUST GET BACK UP! and whatever you do, don’t look back! Don’t dwell on the mistake or the pizza.
Remember that old Japanese Proverb?
Don’t worry about the fact that you haven’t been to the gym in 7-days. The bigger mistake is making it 8-days.
Re-align the Mind
Today’s “good day” should not be a good day. It should be the reality. THE day. Yes, take the moment to pat yourself on the back in the beginning, but know in your mind that this has to become the normal in order for success to remain. That’s called making it a reality.
Let that sink in.
Don’t let this fact hold you back. Remember baby steps above? The goal for this week is to spend it eating and living like this mentality, is the reality.
Good days need to become the normal days.
Good days are the baby step way of looking at it. It’s what you need to begin, but not what you need to succeed in the long-term. Good days = Reality.
Close your eyes and picture who you want to be and make it who you are. Successfully healthy people are not experiencing strings of good days or moments that connect, they ARE those moments. They are those people. You are too. You just have to believe it and you have to begin today. And if you fall down… You know what to do.
In the spirit of all of this, I have invited a few of my inspiring friends to guest blog here. Keep your eyes open in the coming months to hear their stories and how they had that AHA! moment. Or the story of someone who has never struggled, but lives it daily, almost by default. Maybe you can dig around and you’ll find inspiration in there somewhere…